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My Castle in the Sky

May 8, 2017
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This morning, I woke to a sea of self-doubt. Asking myself, “Who do you think you are to be starting a business? Who do you think you are to be doing any of this?! Slow your roll, girl!” What a horrible way to start the day! Does this ever happen to you? Me, too.  In the signature of my email I have one of my favorite phrases, she believed she could and so she did. I’ve always loved the simplicity of that sentence. The beauty of it is, it really is that simple. If you honestly believe, you really can achieve what you desire. Belief can, and does, take a dreamer and worker all the way to the finish line. There are countless stories throughout history to teach us that – belief creates change. The problem is, we allow ourselves to get caught in the self-doubt trap. And that is completely natural.  Self-doubt boils down to one thing: fear. When I start to doubt myself, I pull out my journal and write until the truth reveals itself. It always does. Fear takes many forms: self-doubt, anxiety, stress, anger, frustration, sarcasm, insecurity, and, many times, over-confidence. We fear vulnerability, failure, heartbreak,…

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Packing Up and Moving Out

May 1, 2017
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Being brave is is often defined as “ showing courage,” and courage is defined as having “the ability to do something that frightens” you. To me, being brave is exactly that: doing the things that scare you or make you uncomfortable. This could mean anything from facing your fear of birds to going to your boss and asking for a raise, or standing up for your rights and the rights of others. To me, all of these things make me feel brave, but right now I have something else that is constantly at the forefront of my mind… I am graduating college. There, it’s been said (or typed), therefore it is now made true. Okay, that’s a little dramatic. But it actually is true, and there’s no way to change it. I only needed three more credits to graduate and I took nine, so something crazy will have to happen to cause me not to graduate. I’m on the fast track to adulthood, less than a month left and then it’s all over. Jeez, four years of college went by so fast all of a sudden. So, you might be asking: what does that have to do with being brave?…

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Tiny Victories

April 26, 2017
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Hey, all. Depression is hard. It’s really, really hard. Someday maybe I’ll write about what the depths of what that actually felt like, but lately I’ve been working to see that sunshine and focus on the positive. I’m working on winning my tiny victories. When you’re fighting depression, the smallest thing is overwhelming. I was too tired and worn out to do anything, even simple things like pick up my toddler’s socks from the living room floor without bursting into tears. Tasks that seem so easy and routine when you’re healthy now require you to disembark on grand voyages when you’re sick. When I’m in the lowest points of my depression, my tiny victories are things like staying awake past 6:30pm and not crying on my way to work. However, the Catch-22 of depression is that you’re not able to see past the depression to celebrate those as victories. Now that I’m learning how to deal and what works best for me, my tiny victories look like eating enough fruits & veggies for the day and having enough energy to take my daughter to the playground after work. Tiny victories can be something you achieve every day. Little moments deserve…

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5 Self-discovery Take-Aways

April 19, 2017
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Self-discovery is one of those journeys that you don’t realize you’re actually on until you are moving through it. I found myself on this journey after facing a tough breakup. This heartbreak I was struggling through took over my thoughts and held my mind captive from unlocking my inner peace. I constantly found myself stuck in a place that was keeping me from my fullest potential. Through this moment of weakness, the truth finally dawned on me. The realization that I was in control of how I want to face this challenge. That’s when I made the choice to start picking myself up piece-by-piece, and build myself up into a stronger, kinder, women.  As I continue on my self-discovery adventure today, I leave you with five takeaways that will challenge you to go out of your comfort zone to build a better you. If I can make the choice to find peace within myself, so can you.   Befriend your challenges Self-discovery begins when you make the choice to turn a challenge into a friendly teaching. Having this change in mindset allows for personal growth in your journey. I’m a firm believer that what’s meant for you won’t pass you…

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I’m not alone…

March 21, 2017
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Recently, I had the privilege of speaking to 50+ high school and college women about building a personal brand.  Together, we walked through aligning their passion with their brand and practicing their elevator speech so they would be comfortable and confident when walking into the sponsored networking event later that afternoon. It was a huge success! They did great work and we all left feeling prepared to take on the world (or at least the evening). That, however, was not what moved them the most. After we completed our time together we had a Q&A session. During that time, I was asked what my greatest challenge was in my life and how I overcame it. In that moment, I chose to be brave and share my truth with this group of women. I shared my story of struggling with perfectionism and anxiety throughout my life. Since I was a little girl, I’ve always struggled with keeping myself calm and feeling like I am enough as I am. I really struggled when I was in college trying to manage academic challenges and meet the expectations I had for myself by getting involved. I lost a significant amount of weight in my undergraduate education. My…

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Brave in 2017

January 4, 2017
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2017 is upon us! A new year brings new opportunities, new challenges, new sights, and new sounds. For many of us, a new year is a fresh start and a chance to change our lives.  It’s refreshing to feel a chapter close and start writing the next. 2016 is behind us, and we have all of 2017 to make of it whatever we choose. As you settle into a new rhythm to make your resolution a success (remember, it takes 21 days to form a new habit), I would like to challenge you to make a change with me.  If you’ve read some of the blogs I’ve written in the past you already know that I struggle with perfectionism. It has shaped the majority of my life and I’ve always been ashamed to admit it. That shame I felt was just one more element of my struggle. Now I know, you know, and we can all look at 2017 at a time to do something about it. This year, I would like you to make a change with me. 2016 showed us a lot of pain, tears, hate, and fear. We felt loss and we felt terror. Our reality has…

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Dating with Bravery

December 7, 2016
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Dating is weird. It’s hard and complicated and if you’re like me, it makes you a little nervous. I’ve been single for the last 6 years. (I’m still young but that statement makes me feel ancient haha) I’ve been on a few dates here and there but the only guy I’ve officially dated was my high school boyfriend. It was an intense relationship that was exciting but also really unhealthy in a lot of ways. Side note: If you are in an unhealthy relationship it takes SO much bravery to get out of it, but it’s so worth it and I promise you will have the strength. Feel free to email me at music.annamae@gmail.com if you need any support when it comes to tough breakups because I’ve been there. My dating life, and all of ours, takes bravery at every stage. I think if you don’t date, it can take so much bravery to be single and to be at peace with that. It takes bravery to be willing to go on dates when you feel like your heart is closed off and has been hurt. It takes bravery to commit to someone. It takes bravery to stay with someone….

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Enough

December 4, 2016
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Enough… I’ve never been able to wrap my hands around that word. I’ve tried to take deep breaths; to inhale and exhale “enough”. I’ve tried to trap that word in my lungs and memorize the feel of it dancing across my lips. I’ve felt it, but I’ve never been able to hold on to it. To see it on me, in my footprints. I’ve felt it, but a feeling is fleeting. Feelings roll in and pull away. That was how I experienced enough. It came to me when I was proud of myself, and left as soon as I felt imperfect. What I failed to understand is that enough never left me. I was the one who turned my eyes on enough, on me. I criticized me, I held myself to an impossible standard. Enough wasn’t the prize waiting at the finish line – no, enough was the energy and power coursing through my body as I continued to run the race.  Enough didn’t shoot the gun to start the race, enough was the one whispering “we both know you can do this, keep going. I know it hurts; you’ve got this.” I was the one holding me back. I…

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The Starting Line

December 1, 2016
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“You can choose to blame your circumstances on fate or bad luck or bad choices, or you can fight back. Things aren’t always going to be fair in the real world. That’s just the way it is, but for the most part, you get what you give. The rest of your life is being shaped right now—with the dreams you chase, the choices you make, and the person you decide to be. The rest of your life is a long time. And the rest of your life starts right now.” ~Keith Scott, One Tree Hill The future—it’s what we’ve been looking forward to ever since we could first remember, and it’s what we’ll keep looking to even at our last moments. Hope for the future is often what drives us, pushes and inspires us to get through even the darkest of days. We are living in a society that has instilled us with mindsets that always focus and prepare for the future. What do you want to be when you grow up? Where do you want to go to college? How are you going to pay for college? Are you even going to go to college? What’s your dream job?…

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Two Weeks After November 8th: Acceptance

November 22, 2016
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Like so many of you, I’ve spent the last two weeks trying to process the results of this election.  I’ve felt tears, anger, confusion, and so much more. There was a moment when I was chatting with one of my dearest friends asking, “is there room for a Cammy Nelson in Canada?” while tears were streaming down my face. We all needed time to exhale, time to process the shock. Now, two weeks later, I have arrived at acceptance. This is not the acceptance you may be expecting. The acceptance I’ve reached stems from two very different places: History has a way of repeating itself. We had eight years of a Democratic administration. Rarely in our history as a nation has a party remained in the White House for more than two Presidential terms. Additionally, we can reflect on the election of the Nixon Administration. After progress came from the Civil Rights Movement in the 1960’s there was resistance as there was progress. The same can be seen in this election. Action is no longer an option; it is a necessity. Anyone who has studied history knows that great change comes from even greater sacrifice. It is no longer acceptable…

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