From The Girl Who Has Never Been Homesick
Back in July, I gave a talk at a weekend retreat for an organization called TEC. I
basically had poured the toughest parts of my life out on paper and shared it with a
room full of people I had just met that weekend along with my closest friends and a few
guests I was allowed to invite. At the end, I was allowed to play one song while I
received hugs from my family and everyone else in the room. The song I chose was
Brothers by Needtobreathe. The lyrics perfectly describe the desperate need for love
and support of others; my talk proved that I—as well as every other human being—can’t
make it through this life alone. Every squeezing hug, tearful smile, and heartfelt prayer
from this talk showed me how much love and support I have and how much I have
given. To this day, I cannot listen to that song without returning to these moments and
choking up or letting a tear hit the ground.
Since I was little, I always loved adventure. I loved being away from home and
trying new things. I was the girl that could easily go on a mission trip for a few weeks
and call my mom crying because I didn’t want to come back. I had never been homesick
before because I loved exploring life outside of my home. I was always with someone I
knew—whether it be with my youth group on mission trips or with my closest friends at a
TEC retreat—so I was unafraid to face the new.
I loved being away from home and trying new things. So I went to college 1,711
miles away from home at Florida Gulf Coast University in Fort Myers, Florida. It’s great.
I’m going to school where I want to live, where I want to pursue my dream job, where I
want my future. I’m surrounded by new things, including homesickness. Up until a week
ago, I had never experienced homesickness before in my life, and it completely
destroyed me. I would be super happy at the beginning of the day, then out of nowhere,
I would breakdown and sob uncontrollably. Maybe it was consequences of major sleep
deprivation, or the stress from everything in my life, or my conscious finally realizing I
hadn’t seen my family and friends in months, but I couldn’t control the overwhelming
tidal wave of sorrow that had crashed over me, and I felt helpless.
In an odd sense, these past couple of weeks have been both a blessing and a
curse. I feel cursed because I don’t have a car down here, I came down here having no
friends or family here, and I can only afford to go home once. I saw this as an
opportunity to pity myself; I can’t just go on a long drive when I need a breather, I don’t
have any family to go see 20 minutes away, and I’ll only be with my family for
Christmas.
After I took a few days to mellow out, I realized that all the reasons I had given to
feel sorry for myself are blessings in disguise. I don’t have a car, so I can’t just drive
away from my problems; I am forced to face them. I don’t have family in state nor did I
come here knowing anyone; this is the perfect opportunity to make true friends, ones
that will mean more to me than they might ever understand. I can’t just fly home and
see my family and home-state friends when things get tough or when I miss them, but I
have video chat, and when I finally do get to spend a month at home, I will take every
blessed moment to heart.
I don’t mean to put anyone down that chooses to stay closer to home. I even
envy them a bit at times. I’m writing to let you know that sometimes, following your
dreams will be one of the most challenging things you will ever do, but you should never
take any of it for granted. I experienced something so new that it scared me, but it
helped me realize that my circumstances are only making me stronger and that I have
loving and supportive friends here, too. I am so blessed to have met such incredible
groups of people down here that are here for me as much as I am ready to be there for
them.
The hardest thing about being homesick is not being able to be with the people
you love the most. Being away from home also makes your heart more vulnerable and
willing to open up and care for new people with the same deep love. Our heart always
finds people to love, no matter where we go. After all, “everybody needs someone
beside them”. We can’t make it through this life alone.
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