A note on Mother’s Day

May 12, 2024
We’re approaching one of those hard days. For some, it’s a day of sweetness, for others a day of stress, and, for others still, a day of grief. I was fortunate to grow up in a home with a loving Mom. She stayed home when we were little kids, worked part-time when we were older, and never made us doubt her love for us. She wasn’t perfect, but she was always there.
I know that’s not the reality for everyone. As a new Mom, I cannot imagine ever allowing my daughter to doubt my unconditional love for her. Her smile lights up my entire world and I would do anything for her. Regardless of her identity, sexuality, or the person she chooses to marry, her Dad and I will be there to love, support, and celebrate her.  If you grew up with a different experience, a relationship that caused you pain, or a childhood that made you question your value, I want you to hear what this Mama has to say to you: 

You are loved.  

You are not a mistake. 

You are beautiful. 

You are important.  

You are invaluable.  

You were a blessing, a gift, truly a miracle.  

Your feelings are valid and your experience was real.  

Your gender identity does not define your worth. If society tries to tell you otherwise, I hope you’re fighting like hell to change it.  

And if you’ve been waiting years, decades even, for an apology – for your experience to be validated – please take these words from me: 

My parenting wasn’t always perfect, but I did my best. I’m so sorry my words hurt you. I’m sorry my actions failed you. If I could go back in time, I would do things differently. Your little heart and mind deserved more, and I’m so sorry I couldn’t show up the way you needed. I love you. I’m proud of you. Please forgive me. I’m only human.  

When your heart is aching, so is mine. When your tears are falling, I wish I could be the one to dry them. When your heart bursts with joy, I wish mine could be the eyes you’re smiling into. You were and have always been the greatest love of my life, my darling. There are so many things I wish I could do differently, but I can’t undo the past. I love you, my baby.  

Keep your heart and mind safe, even if that means keeping your distance. You’ll always be my baby, and I’ll always be grateful for you.  

I know Mother’s Day can be difficult for so many. Take care of yourself and do for that relationship whatever feels right. And if you need some love from a new Mama, I’m one DM or comment away!

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